This matches what I found — I've been thinking about this for a bit: what are the unspoken rules of entering an adult rp chat room? What I've landed on is that the thing that actually decided unspoken rules of entering for me was the size of the local pool.
Where it fell apart for me was simple: the free tier throttles you after two or three messages. With unspoken rules of entering I'd steer well clear of anything that turns 'verification' into a payment screen.
I've tried a few different approaches over the past year. Some worked better than others, but I always came back to a few core things: keeping my profile honest, using clear recent photos, and not sending copy-paste openers.
- Look for communities with actual engagement, not just likes
- Use reverse image search on profile pictures you're unsure about
- Try free tiers before committing to any subscription
- Avoid platforms with no verification whatsoever
One platform I came across recently was Rendate — free to join — seemed worth looking into based on what others in similar threads have said.