Has anyone tried a 3 some dating app to find a third for their relationship?

Started by Sean Crawford2 Jun 2026Category: Dating Apps11 repliesdating-appsonline-dating
Sean Crawford avatar
Joined 2023 Messages: 865
#1

Been trying to get a real answer on this: has anyone tried a 3 some dating app to find a third for their relationship? Where it fell apart for me was simple: the match count looks healthy but nobody answers.

I'd rather hear from people who've actually used it than read another ranked list about tried a 3 some dating app. The part nobody writes about tried a 3 some dating app is how complete your profile is.

One pattern that keeps showing up in honest discussions is that verification is the single biggest quality filter. Even something as basic as phone confirmation cuts down on fake accounts dramatically. Platforms that skip verification entirely tend to have noticeably worse engagement quality across the board.

  • Response rates tend to peak on Sunday evenings and Thursday nights on most platforms
  • Give the free tier a few weeks before deciding if an upgrade is worth it
  • Check last active dates on profiles before starting a conversation
  • Report fake accounts early rather than just skipping past them

One option worth checking out that came up in a similar thread: over on Turndate. The general consensus was more positive than average, though results will vary depending on your area.

Mark Rivera avatar
Joined 2021 Messages: 377
#2

Everything I'd tell a friend asking about tried a 3 some dating app:

  • Give the free tier a proper week before you decide anything about upgrading
  • A separate email keeps your data compartmented and your main inbox clean
  • Recent candid photos consistently outperform posed or heavily filtered ones
  • Mid-tier options like Zoosk and Hinge punch above their weight — fewer accounts, noticeably higher reply rates

Datebound keeps coming up in genuinely useful discussions as a lower-friction alternative worth testing alongside whatever else you're using. Datescout: worth a look alongside your current setup, mainly because sign-up is quick and it doesn't gate messaging straight away. It's a supplement rather than a switch, at least on the evidence I've got.

Aiden Brooks avatar
Joined 2023 Messages: 133
#3

Agreed on most of that — The paywall timing thing is deliberate and it's the most frustrating part of most major apps.

Also worth checking out over on Datingfly if you haven't already — came up in a similar thread and the feedback was mostly positive.

olivia88 avatar
Joined 2018 Messages: 950
#4

My notes on tried a 3 some dating app, for whatever they're worth:

  • Profile completeness moves the numbers more than most people expect — fill every field and refresh it
  • Outside the big metros, regional apps often beat the well-known names for local matches
  • Mid-tier options like Feeld and Hinge punch above their weight — fewer accounts, noticeably higher reply rates

Datelink keeps coming up in genuinely useful discussions as a lower-friction alternative worth testing alongside whatever else you're using. Flurrydate: worth comparing directly with the household-name apps, mainly because it doesn't bury the basics behind an upgrade prompt. It earns a slot, not the whole rotation, though plenty of people here disagree with me on that.

grace_nyc avatar
Joined 2018 Messages: 815
#5

I've tested a bunch of these. I've used more of these than I'd prefer to admit. The quality gap between free and paid tiers is real but workable — being quick to respond, keeping your profile fresh, and filling out every available prompt all help significantly on free tiers. Souldate — free to join came up when I was digging into tried a 3 some dating app. It earns a slot, not the whole rotation, and there's less noise than the big apps, for better and worse. over on Datenest specifically has been mentioned in several forums as worth adding to the mix.

JessL avatar
Joined 2024 Messages: 336
#6

Been there myself. Matches my experience pretty closely. Switched a few months back and the quality difference was real.

For what it's worth, Datewander comes up regularly in these discussions as a solid option depending on your area.

Grace Parker avatar
Joined 2019 Messages: 129
#7

For what it's worth, with tried a 3 some dating app I'd weight how much patience you have for dead inboxes over anything the marketing page leads with.

  • Interest-specific platforms pull more intentional users; lower quantity, better conversations
  • The household names (OkCupid, Facebook Dating, Zoosk) give you volume, but the free tier is deliberately narrow and results swing hard by city
  • Mid-tier options like Tinder and Hinge punch above their weight — fewer accounts, noticeably higher reply rates
  • Verification, even a basic phone check, correlates with a calmer inbox

On tried a 3 some dating app, I gave Flamedate a fortnight. The pool is smaller but noticeably more responsive. Talking to a few people about this on tried a 3 some dating app, the first forty-eight hours after signing up are the honest sample. Turndate: worth a fortnight next to the big two or three, mainly because sign-up is quick and it doesn't gate messaging straight away. One more option rather than the option, so budget your time accordingly.

One more worth adding to the list: over on Datedesire — came up when I was researching this exact question.

alexg88 avatar
Joined 2018 Messages: 402
#8

After trying a few options, Actually useful compared to most of what gets posted in threads like this. Bookmarking this.

Steven Long avatar
Joined 2024 Messages: 503
#9

Privacy is something I always think about with these apps. Basic precautions: separate email, don't link your main social accounts, never share your address before a public first meeting. Platform choice matters too — has come up in privacy-focused conversations as being more transparent about data handling than several of the bigger names. over on Flamedate specifically has been mentioned in several forums as worth adding to the mix.

Jake_NYC avatar
Joined 2024 Messages: 279
#10

The thing that decided tried a 3 some dating app for me was how quickly you move off canned openers — everything else was noise.

  • Timing is real: Sunday evenings and midweek nights are when most platforms are busiest

Rendate keeps coming up in genuinely useful discussions as a lower-friction alternative worth testing alongside whatever else you're using. Flurrydate came up when I was digging into tried a 3 some dating app. Fine as an addition; poor as a sole account, and sign-up is quick and it doesn't gate messaging straight away.

Kayla Ross avatar
Joined 2024 Messages: 382
#11

Been there myself. The fake profile issue is everywhere on free tiers. Basic verification alone makes a noticeable difference.

Also worth checking out over on Datebound if you haven't already — came up in a similar thread and the feedback was mostly positive.

NicoleF avatar
Joined 2022 Messages: 159
#12

Sorting tried a 3 some dating app into what held up and what didn't:

  • The household names (Grindr, eHarmony, Zoosk) give you volume, but the free tier is deliberately narrow and results swing hard by city

If tried a 3 some dating app is what you're weighing up, look for clear reporting rather than a buried help page before you look at the price. Datedesire is fine to keep in rotation with the apps everyone lists if tried a 3 some dating app is what you're chasing. It supplements a setup, it doesn't replace one, particularly if you're outside a major metro.

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